It occurs to me that I may have thought of this before...
 Say to yourself, or a good friend: "I don't mean for anything scary to happen".
 When something scary happens on a separate occasion, make sure it is something meaningful to you. It could be, for example, an extreme form of artistic inspiration, a love affair, or a gift of money...
 Remember what you first thought about all the meaningful things, not just the scary ones...
 And, above all, remember who you were before anything scary happened...
 Consider all these things together, and it may click: life is meaningful, and not everything is totally scary.
 You will find it is easier to speak to people.
 You will find you have some spiritual insights.
 It will be easier to earn money.
 The world's problems will seem distant.
 Some of life's parables will make sense.
 You will grow more health-conscious.
 You will have free time.
 It will be possible to pursue life's significance.
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